She doesn’t return your phone call. He doesn’t respond to your e-mail. She glances away from you when you try to make eye contact.
And now, as my friend Susan put it, you “make s*%# up.” She must be mad at me. I must have offended him. She wants to avoid me.
This is normal. When there is a void, our mind needs to fill it. Unfortunately, we usually fill it with s*%#.
We would be happier if we could automatically think, “She must be busy,” or, “Maybe my e-mail landed in his junk mail,” or, “She must have a lot on his mind.”
I have found that more than 90% of the time, the s*%# I made up turned out to not be true. Not even close.
Give everyone some slack. It’s probably not personal.
